Prem Kurien Joseph

“Earlier, it probably was a matter of shame for the girl’s family if they did not give dowry. But now, a culture should be created that would bring shame upon the guy’s family if they demand or receive dowry. Unless people are made to feel embarrassed or awkward, they would not stop this practice.”

Prem Kurien Joseph, Software Engineer

What are your views on the idea of ‘the big fat Indian wedding’? Do you think it is necessary? Why/why not?

It is unnecessary. Marriage is supposed to be between two people, so the event should mainly be for them and not for the world.

Do you think the practice of dowry has increased as compared to your parent’s time? Or has it reduced?

I think it has gone down as there are more laws against it these days.

Why is dowry so enticing that even well educated, well-meaning young people are not able to say no to it?

Everybody likes to live a lavish life and dowry brings them a lot of money quite easily. Probably that is why it is enticing.

Do you think that the honour of your family and/or your position in the family would be compromised by not accepting or giving dowry? Why/ why not?

I do not think that dowry plays a role in determining the position you have or the honour you enjoy in your family.

What are your views on the practice of dowry?

I do not agree with the practice at all. Dowry should not be given to the groom or his family. If something has to be given, it should be given to the girl for her personal use.

If you are against the practice of dowry, please respond to the following questions:

Would you be willing to let go of what you would be entitled to traditionally?

Yes.

Do you think that your parents would agree with your decision in this regard? If not, what are the steps you would take to convince them?

Yes, they would agree with my decision. They ascribe a greater value to relationships than money.

What things would help to curb and eradicate the practice of Dowry?

There definitely has to be stringent rules and punishments to combat it. Earlier, it probably was a matter of shame for the girl’s family if they did not give dowry. But now, a culture should be created that would bring shame upon the guy’s family if they demand or receive dowry. Unless people are made to feel embarrassed or awkward, they would not stop this practice.

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